“But that intimacy of mutual embarrassment, in which each feels that the other is feeling something, having once existed, its effect is not to be done away with.” –George Eliot
So true. Once you’ve had it, you don’t want to lose it. Oh, but it is so so rare today. What happened to Lovers? If they weren’t to last a lifetime, they were at least committed to having a lot of sex exclusively. And they’d go on trips together. And eat good food and drink good wine. They’d go to the theater and date. I know entirely too many sexy, hot single men and women to be wondering why everyone is alone and in heat. Everyone I know is horny up to their elbows. Once upon a time, there was man and there was woman. And they made it work. Maybe not forever, but at least for some time, so they could have a lot of sex with just each other. Do people not have patience anymore for intimacy and great we-know-each-other-well sex? Casual sex can be dull if it’s done too often.
“Among men, sex sometimes results in intimacy; among women, intimacy sometimes results in sex.” -Barbara Cartland
I think about these things all day. I don’t understand how people who want to make connections aren’t. What’s so difficult? Maybe I make connections too easily because I know I’m not coming from the angle of this must last forever and ever. It doesn’t. If it does, wonderful. If it doesn’t, that’s wonderful too if the parties involved are satisfied with what transpired and are okay with it ending. I think too many people are focused on forever or think their partner is focused on forever, so they get turned off. What results is potential lovers, women especially, missing out on meaningful, passionate love-making with a partner they get to know well. Women are getting the short end of the stick on this.
This video, Intimacy, by Pavel Pavlov, is beautiful and certainly not long enough.
I can’t do these things with just anyone.